After Heartbreak, Healing Begins: An Interview With Christine Wunder on Remembering Who You Are

Christine Wunder is a mindset coach, writer, and member of Solace Farms' Circle of Support team, dedicated to helping women rediscover their strength, self-worth, and inner peace. After walking through her own journey of heartbreak and transformation, Christine found her purpose in guiding others back to themselves. When she’s not writing or coaching, Christine finds peace in nature, meaningful conversations, and quiet moments of gratitude that remind her of how far she’s come. On August 15, 1pm to 3pm, she'll be facilitating Becoming Her Again: Healing After Heartbreak. Advance registration is required, because there is limited seating. Sign up by August 8 for early bird pricing.

1. You say that “Healing begins with feeling seen, heard, and understood.” What experiences in your own life inspired that philosophy, and how did they lead you to offer intuitive mindset coaching?

As I look back on my own journey, I can now see that much of my life was spent searching for someone who could truly understand me. Someone who could see past the smile, the roles I was playing, and everything I had been carrying, and simply understand my heart.

Through many experiences, I realized how deeply we all long to be seen, not for what we do or how well we hold everything together, but for who we really are. There is something profoundly healing about being with someone who doesn’t rush to judge you or tell you who you should be. They simply see you.

That realization changed everything.

As I began my own healing journey, I discovered that healing often begins when we finally feel safe enough to tell the truth about where we are, without fear of judgment or shame. When someone feels truly seen, heard, and understood, something inside them begins to soften. They no longer have to carry everything alone.

That is the foundation of my work today. My coaching is about creating a space where people feel seen, heard, and safe enough to remember who they are underneath the pain. I believe each of us carries an inner wisdom, but life’s pain, expectations, and survival strategies can make it difficult to hear our own voice. My role is to gently walk beside people as they reconnect with the person they’ve always been and begin to heal.

2. What inspired you to create the Becoming Her Again group? Was there a particular experience or realization that made you feel women moving through divorce needed this kind of healing space?

Becoming Her Again wasn’t created because I had all the answers. It was created because I know what it feels like to lose yourself.

After my own divorce, I realized I wasn’t just grieving the end of a marriage. I was grieving the woman I had forgotten along the way. Somewhere between taking care of everyone else, trying to hold everything together, and simply surviving, I had become disconnected from myself.

As I began healing, I realized I wasn’t alone. So many women were asking, “How do I move on?” But beneath that question was another one that often went unspoken: “How do I find myself again?”

That question became the heartbeat behind Becoming Her Again.

I didn’t want to create another workshop filled with advice or another list of steps for getting over divorce. I wanted to create a space where women could simply breathe. A space where they could feel seen, heard, understood, and safe enough to begin reconnecting with themselves.

I don’t believe women need to be fixed. I believe they need a safe place to remember who they are underneath the pain. Because healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to the woman who has been there all along.

One of the greatest privileges of this work is witnessing that transformation begin. I’ve watched women walk through the door carrying heartbreak in their eyes and the weight of the world on their shoulders. They arrive exhausted, questioning themselves, and wondering if they’ll ever feel like themselves again.

Then, as we spend time together, something begins to shift. Their shoulders relax. Their breathing slows. Their smile returns. The heaviness they’ve been carrying seems just a little lighter.

And then it happens.

You can almost see the light return to their eyes.

Not because all of their circumstances have changed, but because something inside them has. They begin to remember they are stronger than they thought. They remember they are worthy of healing. They remember who they are.

Those moments remind me why I do this work. Healing doesn’t always happen in one dramatic breakthrough. Sometimes it begins with one afternoon where someone finally feels seen, heard, and understood. From that place, hope begins to rise again.

That is my hope for every woman who walks through the door. Not that she leaves as a different person, but that she leaves remembering the strength, worth, and beauty that have always been within her.

3. For someone who has never attended one of your groups, could you take us inside the experience? From the moment participants arrive until they leave, what does the afternoon look and feel like?

From the moment a woman walks through the door, my hope is that she feels something she may not have felt in a very long time, a sense of peace.

I begin by reminding everyone that this is a safe space. There is no pressure to have it all together. No expectations. No judgment. Every woman is welcome to come exactly as she is.

Before we begin the deeper work, we start with a guided meditation designed to help calm the nervous system. So many women arrive carrying stress, grief, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion. I believe it’s important to help the mind and body settle first because when we feel safe, we become more open to healing.

I’ve found that for many women, this is the first time in a long time that they’ve truly taken a deep breath. They’ve spent so much of their lives holding everything together, taking care of everyone else, and pushing through their pain that they’ve forgotten what it feels like to simply pause and breathe. That moment often becomes the first step toward coming home to themselves.

From there, we begin working through the Becoming Her Again After Heartbreak workbook that I created. Each section gently invites women to reflect on their experiences, reconnect with themselves, and discover who they are underneath the pain. We move at a pace that honors each woman’s journey, allowing space for quiet reflection, journaling, and meaningful conversation.

One of the most powerful moments of the workshop is our release ritual. Together, we acknowledge the things we’ve been carrying that no longer serve us, whether it’s guilt, fear, shame, anger, self doubt, or even false stories we’ve believed about ourselves. There is something incredibly moving about watching women choose to lay those burdens down. It reminds us that healing isn’t just about holding on. Sometimes it’s about learning to let go.

My greatest hope isn’t that anyone leaves with all the answers. It’s that she leaves feeling lighter than when she arrived, with practical tools she can continue using, a deeper connection to herself, and the reminder that she is not alone. Healing is a journey, but sometimes all it takes is one safe space to take the first step back to herself.

4. Your group includes guided journaling, a nervous system meditation, and a release ritual. How did you choose these particular practices, and what role does each one play in helping participants heal?

Each practice was chosen intentionally because I don’t believe healing happens in just one part of us. It involves our mind, our body, our emotions, and our heart.

We begin by calming the nervous system because it’s difficult to reflect, process, or heal when we’re stuck in survival mode. Creating a sense of safety allows women to slow down, breathe, and become present with themselves.

Journaling is where curiosity begins. So often, we’re busy meeting everyone else’s needs that we rarely stop to ask ourselves how we’re really doing. Writing creates space to notice our thoughts, explore our emotions, and reconnect with our own voice without judgment.

The release ritual creates a tangible moment where women can choose to let go of something that has been weighing on their hearts. Whatever it is, the ritual reminds us that healing isn’t just about remembering. Sometimes it’s about releasing.

When these practices come together, they create something bigger than the individual exercises. They create a space where women can feel safe enough to remember who they are underneath the pain.

For me, that’s what healing is all about.

5. Your work is centered on helping people “come home to themselves.” What does that phrase mean to you, and what does it look like when someone begins to reconnect with the person they’ve always been?

To me, coming home to yourself means remembering who you were before the world told you who you had to be.

I believe each and every one of us was uniquely created. We all have gifts, strengths, and a light that only we can bring into the world. The world doesn’t need us to become someone else. It needs each of us to become more fully ourselves.

Life has a way of covering that light. Heartbreak, disappointment, trauma, loss, criticism, and the pressure to be who everyone else expects us to be can slowly cause us to forget who we are. I don’t believe that light ever disappears. I believe it simply becomes hidden beneath the weight of what we’ve been carrying.

Coming home to yourself is the process of gently uncovering that light again. It’s remembering your worth, your voice, your strengths, and the parts of yourself that have always been there, even when you couldn’t see them.

When that begins to happen, the changes are often quiet but profound. You start trusting yourself again. You stop trying so hard to fit into places you were never meant to fit. You begin making choices that reflect your values instead of other people’s expectations. You become gentler with yourself, and you begin to see your own uniqueness as something to celebrate instead of something to hide.

For me, that’s what healing looks like. It isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been, allowing your light to shine again, and trusting that the world needs the unique person only you were created to be.

6. Without sharing anyone’s private story, can you tell us about a memorable moment or transformation you’ve witnessed through your groups or coaching?

Protecting the privacy of the women I work with is very important to me, so I won’t share anyone’s personal story. What I can share is the kind of transformation I’m honored to witness.

One participant shared these words after attending Becoming Her Again:

“The class was exactly what I needed to start my journey on finding myself again. We uncovered things I loved and had forgotten, strength I did not know I had, and the door to a new beginning. Christine is truly a wonderful soul. It was a safe space with no judgment, just support and love.”

When I read those words, I was deeply moved because they perfectly captured what I hope every woman experiences.

My goal has never been to give someone all the answers. My hope is to create a space where a woman feels safe enough to reconnect with herself, discover strengths she may have forgotten, and believe that a new beginning is possible.

For me, the greatest transformation isn’t that someone leaves with a completely different life. It’s that she leaves seeing herself differently. She stands a little taller. She breathes a little deeper. She begins to believe in herself again. And when that happens, hope begins to rise again.

Those are the moments that remind me why I do this work.

7. Many people think healing happens in one dramatic breakthrough, yet you emphasize gentle, steady progress. What have you learned about how real healing unfolds?

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is that healing isn’t a destination we arrive at. It’s a relationship we build with ourselves over time.

We live in a world that loves overnight success stories and dramatic transformations, but that hasn’t been my experience. Real healing is often much quieter than that.

It’s choosing to get out of bed on a hard day.

It’s taking one deep breath instead of pushing your feelings away.

It’s setting a boundary for the first time.

It’s showing yourself compassion instead of criticism.

It’s beginning to trust yourself again.

Those moments may seem small, but over time they create profound change.

I’ve also learned that healing isn’t linear. There are days when we feel strong and days when old wounds resurface. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed. It means we’re human. Sometimes healing asks us to revisit old places, not because we’re moving backward, but because we’re ready to heal them in a deeper way.

I often tell the women I work with that healing isn’t about becoming a perfect version of yourself. It’s about remembering the woman you were always created to be. When we stop measuring our progress by how quickly we’re healing and begin celebrating each small step forward, something shifts. We stop chasing perfection and start honoring progress.

That’s where grace enters the journey. And in my experience, that’s where lasting healing begins.

8. If someone reading this interview is wondering whether Becoming Her Again is right for them, what would you want them to know?

I would want them to know that while Becoming Her Again was inspired by my own journey through divorce, it’s really for anyone who has experienced heartbreak or lost touch with themselves along the way.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. It can be the end of a marriage or relationship. It can come through grief, loss, betrayal, trauma, disappointment, or simply years of putting everyone else before yourself until you no longer recognize the person looking back at you in the mirror.

Every woman’s story is different. Every journey is different. Whatever has brought you to this place in your life, you don’t have to compare your pain to anyone else’s to deserve healing.

When you walk through the door, you’ll find a safe space where there is no judgment, no pressure to have it all together, and no expectation that your healing should look like anyone else’s. It’s a place where we begin laying down shame, hurt, and the burdens we’ve carried for far too long. It’s a place where you’re invited to simply be yourself.

You don’t have to have everything figured out before you come. You don’t have to be “healed enough.” You don’t even have to know exactly what you need. You simply have to be willing to take one small step toward yourself.

My hope isn’t that you leave as someone different. My hope is that you leave remembering the woman you’ve always been, believing in your own strength again, and knowing that no matter what you’ve walked through, your story isn’t over. Sometimes the most beautiful chapters begin the moment we find our way back to ourselves.